Obviously, we work to highlight and maintain our best “assets.” I highlight my eyes with makeup and my favorite body parts through clothes, and I hit the gym hard so I can get after my arms and booty.

When it comes to the things I don’t like, I have two choices: Fix it or stop fixating. Let’s start with my ears, they stick out,,, some call them “teacup ears”… I might argue coffee mugs, but regardless, of what you call them, I used to fixate on them. In fact I was so self-conscious about them, that I would not put my hair in a ponytail until I was in 9th grade.

Finally, I got over my fear of showing my ears… I looked like cousin it when I played sports, and my competitive nature outweighed my vanity. I couldn’t fix my ears, so I had to stop fixating. The pony tail went in… and its been there ever since.

While there was really nothing I could do about my ears, I could do something about my small chest. I could get a boob job… essentially, I can get it done or get over it! When I was younger, I used to swear I would get boobs as soon as I was old enough, but for the time being, getting over it has replaced getting it done.

I play football, and getting boobs just isn’t practical. However, because it is my choice not to have boobs, I fixate less on them, and instead I work to develop my muscles. To be honest, my arms get so much attention, that I don’t think most people care that I have no chest (except for what I can build in the gym).

My skin is probably the things that I am most sensitive about. If I tend to fixate on any one of my flaws, this is the one… however, I actively work on fixing it. I have sensitive skin, and I will get breakouts, so I have to be very careful about what I put on it… both makeup and products.

Because skin is not my specialty, I go to an expert. One of my best friends is an esthetician, so I put my skin in her hands and trust that her care will help me overcome this perceived flaw. What makes it even better, is that we trade training for skin care. She trusts her body to me, and I trust my face to her. Whenever, I start to be critical about my skin, I try not to look too closely in the mirror, because if I fixate on my skin, I will literally pick at my pimples, and pick my face apart.

It all comes down to focusing on the things that are in your control. You can control highlighting your strengths through clothes and makeup. You can also minimize certain weaknesses that way (my chest for example), with a good bra and certain shirts, my chest doesn’t appear to be a flaw, especially not next to my rockin’ arms. Again, one day I might get boobs, but for now I have gotten over it.

Ultimately you have two choices when you have something you don’t like about yourself, fix it or stop fixating on it.

The best news is, that when it comes to how your body looks in terms of body-fat and/ or muscular development,,, it is all fixable, so stop fixating and FIX IT!!!!